How to overcame your first sober heartbreak
When you’re a drinker, heartbreaks are part of the lifestyle. Steady relationships aren’t really a thing because you’re not so steady yourself. My longest relationships while drinking never crossed the three month mark and I was okay with that. Addict brain likes the rollercoaster rides and dramas that come with love, lust, and obsession. It wasn’t until I was sober that I realized that this is not normal, even though it was normal for me for many years.
First, I want to tell you my formula for curing heartbreaks when I was drinking:
- Once the break up happens — call…
What I learned in my first year of sobriety.
- You get your feelings back — This is the best and worst part about quitting drinking. Who knew you could feel so damn much? Who knew it would hurt so bad and feel so good all at the same time?
- You have more money — To buy $7 lattes, lavish dinners, or new shoes. Pretty much anything your heart desires because you stopped wasting all your cash on booze.
- You lose friends — While finding new appreciating for the friends that stuck around and cheered you on. They’re the real ones. The good ones.
- You take responsibility — You don’t…
5 years. The longest relationship I’ve ever had: Me and my sober self.
I think about drinking all the time. I loved drinking. I was good at it and I have scars on my knees from all those fall-down drunken nights to prove it. We’ve had good times and we’ve had bad times. Some nights, I miss those nights.
The last five years have brought learning, growing, facing things I didn’t want to face, fixing things I didn’t think needed fixing, and preparing myself for whatever came next. I am sad for the time I spent drinking and how it…
Michelle Bonfils
Poetry, Memoir, and Tales of Sobriety.
